I reckon by the time you finish reading this, your answer will have changed, and your year may look very well different.You see when we closed down for the Christmas break I was feeling particularly enthusiastic and inspired.
But something changed all of that.
A new behaviour which has become an obsessive addiction.
You may remember I shared that I was close to burnout around September and needed to make some changes which in turn became very transformational.
I traded working so much for spending time on my well-being, self growth and expansion. I started approaching business in a more holistic manner and directed my attention to human potential and the power of the brain.
I am always reading, studying, researching and learning (it’s my most favourite past time).
Among the many voices I encountered, one resonated deeply—Vishen Lakhiani, the visionary mind behind Mindvalley. His book, “The Code of the Extraordinary Mind”, introduced me to a concept: the beautiful destruction.
“Beautiful destruction is when you realise to evolve into a better version of yourself, you must first destroy aspects of what you have already built so a new version of you can emerge”.
Sometimes in life, you have to destroy something that is merely good to allow something better to emerge. Sometimes you choose the beautiful destruction (as I did when I was on the verge of burnout), or sometimes it chooses you (anyone who has been on the receiving end of a broken heart knows this all too well)
It got me to thinking how scary it is when faced with a beautiful destruction.
When I look back over my life and the lives of the clients I have worked with for the past 3 decades, I can see two main modes of operandi.
You either go through hell and make some changes, or you spend all of your energy trying to avoid anything that could cause the same pain or destruction.
How many of us do this without even realising it?
So instead of working on my projects, I spent time immersing myself in a more holistic approach to and a proven method to setting goals in all areas of my life.
For the first time, as I penned down this year’s aspirations, I didn’t chastise myself for the unmet goals of the past. Bold aspirations now grace my list—some of which I might spectacularly fail at.
For the first time I am actually excited about failing at 50% of these goals, and that’s thanks to the formula used by the almighty Google.
If you didn’t know, it is 10 times harder to get a job at Google than it is to get into Harvard.
And this is because they have gotten success down to an exact formula.
In a nutshell, it goes like this.
They encourage their team to set ambitious goals knowing their star employees will achieve a 60% success rate, meaning they FAIL at a 40% success rate.
So I wanted to encourage you instead of burying your head in the sand and not setting goals what if you set goals without worrying about the fail rate knowing if you fail at 40%, you are actually a success!
My newest favourite guru Vishen Lakhiani suggests considering 2 questions which have formed the basis for my goals.
They are simply:
What do you want?
and Why do you want it?
It’s that simple. Oh, and of course, you do have to take action towards your goals
You don’t need approval from anyone to take 2024 and dream bigger and aim higher than you ever have before.
Just don’t repeat anything that hasn’t worked, and be prepared to make some internal changes.
As the great J.K Rowling put it best, “It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all — in which case, you fail by default.”
So have fun setting your goals, and know that I am here to support you all the way.
I have some game-changing material dropping soon that will transform the way you approach dating in 2024 and beyond.
With love,
Louanne
